Messaging someone for the 1st time on a dating site will make or break your chances for a real life connection. You should always message someone in a way that showcases you actually spent time to read their profile. You should have something unique to say; not like everyone else on the dating site/app who only has time to put together two to three letters of the alphabet to say “Hi” or “Hey.” I like to include the 3 F’s of the perfect first message. Fun, Fresh and Flirty. Your message shouldn’t come across as a copy, paste note, and it shouldn’t be more than 3-4 sentences or a short paragraph. Your goal is to make a great mental impression, and generate curiosity.